|The Holiday Season
||[Nov. 23rd, 2009|12:00 am]
1) What are the front runners favorite traditional holiday foods?
2) Do people like to go to other people's houses for holidays or do they prefer to stay at home?
3) Does anyone boycott holidays out front?
4) Do any of the front runners have traditions they invented for the holidays?
5) If people could only be out front for one holiday each year which one would they choose?
1) COOKIES! Cookies are 100 of our favrit!! We make super speshel cookies for Crismes, they are delishes. We make probly about 10 or 20 diffrent ones!!
We older ones like the cookies pretty well, and for the winter holidays, those are the most consistent tradition we have.
2) We love to host, and we love to have a home that is welcoming for holidays. But we also love to visit our friends, so that's important to us as well.
3) I wouldn't say "boycott," but we do have a reframing of Thanksgiving. We love elements of that holiday--the food, the giving thanks, the fact that the focus is on sharing things together. We have also had several experiences in which Thanksgiving marked a symbolic shift, this year in particular (I/we reached a major milestone in healing the day before Thanksgiving this year, and the joy and gratitude are incredible).
Anyhow. Years ago, a friend was talking about her discomfort with Thanksgiving because it not only represents giving thanks, but it is so closely tied with the oppression of the people who were on this continent first. Part of what people were giving thanks for was the beginning of the imperialist takeover of this continent.
So we reframed it, and started referring to the holiday as "Tohen": That Oppressive Holiday at the End of November. And we decided to make it into a new holiday, that gives thanks for the good things--food, friends, sharing. Our friends at the time helped us to make it into a holiday where we focused on chosen family, and spent it together giving thanks for each other, and for the ideas of social change. So not so much boycotting, or going along with what's there, but changing it so it works for us.
4) See above. We've also made a lot of traditions for other holidays. We build a themed gingerbread creation with our friends for the winter holidays. We then have a New Year's Eve party, and smash the gingerbread and eat it (or as much as people feel like eating). Then, just after midnight, as the New Year is starting, we get out the big dictionary, and each person flips it open randomly to get their word of the year. It's fun and silly and teaches us new words.
We tend to make different traditions, and work on letting them be flexible. We also celebrate a lot of holidays, particularly since we were raised Christian, and our partner is Jewish (this makes it easier for each of us to have holidays that are pretty close to what we want, because the one who cares more about a holiday gets to define it close to what they want).
5) I think we wouldn't choose, because we have come to a place where we're okay with everyone being out front whenever they want to be.
Must agree with you about the cookies! Cookies are a good thing! :)
Also, if we don't point out where it came from (guard your anonymity and all....you know, all that correct stuff), may we tell our kids about 'Tohen' ? We think they would love it.
2009-11-30 01:22 am (UTC)
Definitely tell people about Tohen. It's one of the best ways I've ever re-framed a holiday, and I'm happy to have more people celebrating it. :)